From results just received via email... last sentence after all the mumbo-jumbo and jibber-jabber...
"NO MALIGNANCY IDENTIFIED"
- *tears of . . . relief*
lapintada- November 13th, 2016
- follow up...
- lapintada
- November 9th, 2016
Got the biopsy done today.
Wont get results til MAYBE the end of week - definitely next tuesday for sure.
Suffice to say, my nerves are shot to shit. I'm exhausted -- have been awake since 5am yesterday: just cant sleep.
Now, add the pain i'm in.... ugh
Will keep y'all posted.
- things on my mind
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- November 5th, 2016
I've been told by everyone, including my mother and sister, "don't worry. its nothing. you'll be fine. nothing to worry about this is common".
DAMNIT!!! I **AM** worried and scared!!!!
When you get a "premonition" in broad daylight and not through a random dream, you PAY FUCKING ATTENTION! When the current year -2016- has been FILLED with almost all "bad", then you PAY FUCKING ATTENTION!
YES, I'm worried and scared. It's MY health we're talking about!!!!
On Wednesday, I have to get a biopsy done of my left breast. For the last 12 years all of my mammograms were "normal". This time, they called me back within days and performed a second one and the second one determined I needed the biopsy.
Yes, there are too many unknown variables, but that does not negate the fear I am feeling. It doesn't take away from my head just how bad this past year has been and this is just one more THING piled on to the bullshit.
Only one person told me I had a right to my feelings... that I had every right to feel afraid. She was honest. And she happens to be a cancer survivor.
So yes. I am afraid and worried and I have not slept all week with this shit on my brain.
I *hope* it turns out to be nothing, but right now, it does not feel like nothing.
- **sadness** Good-bye rnddaway
- lapintada
- October 19th, 2016
I tried to post this earlier today but LJ and my pc were not cooperating with me. Here goes...
Rest In Peace to my beautiful friend, Tara Berne Coffey. She was a beautiful woman with an even more beautiful soul. We met years ago here on LiveJournalrnddaway, became fast friends through our 'likes' and 'dislikes'. Bonded over the passing of another LJ friend (Leslie) years ago. And bonded even more when her dad passed a few years after that.
She was also from NY (Brooklyn) and that was also a commonality the just made us closer. She got married to a wonderful guy, David, who has been her partner and love for the past 7 years.
Over the past few years, Tara has been struggling with severe health issues (cancer and complications from treatments, etc). This morning, around 1:30, Tara lost her battle.
Please send love and prayers and warm thoughts to David, as he needs them now more than ever.
I'll miss you Tara. I'll miss your laugh and your jokes and your inappropriate but well-timed raunchiness. Good-bye Sis. Say hi to both of our Papi's in heaven. <3 <3 <3
- Beginnings, Middles and Ends...
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- March 12th, 2016
So, provided his fever doesn't return, my father will begin chemo on Monday. EDIT: Got call this morning, he's in the ER.
Last month we found out that my dad has stage 4 lung cancer, and that it has metastasized. He's already undergone almost 2 weeks of radiation targeting lesions on his brain. The chemo will begin Monday targeting his lungs, lymph nodes and esophagus. It's all very grueling and intensive for him, but he's in fairly good spirits and says he's going to "fight" this. I spent the day with him yesterday, primarily to take him to his doctor's office because he'd experienced fever the night prior and needed to follow up.
It was such a beautiful day, weather-wise, in New York City, that it ALMOST made me forget at times why I was in The City to begin with. Then he'd start to cough or slow down walking even more than usual, and BAM! Automatic reminder.
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EDIT: ok... so I'm jumping in my narrative because I honestly cannot remember what I was going to write after that last sentence.
I'm numb. That's the best way I can describe how I feel right now. I can't cry right now - it's not there. I cried, a lot, when we first got the news of his diagnosis. But right now, I can't.
I know there's a lot of different things contributing to my current mental and emotional state. I also knew this was coming - my feelings, I mean. You see, I think way too much and more importantly, I remember everything. And I know, the past should not over-shadow the present, but I think you have to remember, in order to do that final 'heal'.
Right now, I'm sitting here, trading text messages with my siblings, all of us waiting to see what we're going to do next. Daddy is in the hospital ER. They're reaching out to his primary/oncologist but most likely will be admitting him. Once we know that, then we'll each decide our next steps for the day.
Meanwhile, my thoughts are so damn skattered - as you can plainly see/read. OK, here's how I'll do it...
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My father came to NY when he was 21 years old from Puerto Rico. While here visiting family, "met" his cousin, my mother and fell in love and married 4 years later. As stories go, the usual happened: marriage, kids, work, no work, divorce. The spin: my parents are cousins -- therefore, always related.
Idilic childhood? no, not by any stretch of the imagination. Grew up in Spanish Harlem, New York City, also known as "El Barrio", also known as "The Ghetto". As most childhoods in that time and place, you lived life the best you could with what you had and either 'made it' or didn't. I can honestly say that my siblings and I "made it". We 'got out', as it were, but we will always be Barrio Kids and it will always be home.
My childhood memories are extremely varied: some good, a lot of bad and some more good.
I remember a trip to Puerto Rico when I was 2. It comes to me in flashes, like snapshots.
I remember punishments for "being bad" -- being hit with a belt buckle; being punished and put to kneel in a corner on rice.
i remember going to church every single sunday because he said we had to go because we were good catholics.
i remember, at 14, him doing something no father should EVER do to a daughter. I remember telling my mother and being questioned as to whether or not I knew what I was talking about.
I remember, at 16, being beaten to within an inch of my life and having a loaded rifle pointed at my head - all because he and my mother had a fight and I was a convenient target. I remember protecting my siblings by keeping his attention and taking more of a beating so that he wouldn't turn on them.
I remember tears when I was dropped off at college a couple years later.
I remember tears again when doing the father/daughter dance at my first wedding a year later at 19.
I remember being SO ANGRY with him when he DARED to use an EXTREMELY DEROGATORY word about my unborn first child at 23. Anger so intense that I didn't let him meet my child until my second one was born.
i remember many phone calls, asking for forgiveness for the things he'd done throughout my lifetime.
I remember telling him... yes, I'll forgive, but I'll never forget.
Forgiveness was easy. He is my father after all. The man who held my hand as a child in the park. The man who taught me about how to fix cars. The man who taught me how to shoot guns and rifles. The man who's taken MANY YEARS to earn that forgiveness.
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EDIT: he'll be admitted to the hospital. he has pheumonia. was at breakfast when I received this latest update. i'll be leaving for nyc shortly, just waiting on one of my sisters to get there first to update me further.
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I still don't know what to feel. I'm still numb. I'm angry - because I just realized that there is a part of me that is still MAD at what he'd done to me in the past. And yet, I know, logically that I should not be angry. I know that everything I've experienced in life has shaped me into the woman that I am today. I'm sad. I'm just numb.
I know for a fact that he absolutely loves my children and my husband. He is very happy for me that I've finally found "the one". He told me the other day that he is proud of me; that I am a good mother and that I did a really good job with my kids.
I wasn't looking for validation. I wasn't looking for approval. I'm still not. But I am very glad to know how he feels about it all.
OK. Going to stop for now. My thoughts have trailed off again. But for now - thanks for listening.
- random for no reason at all..
- lapintada
- December 31st, 2012
Still waiting for endocrinologist to actually START working with Raven. I'm getting royally pissed because while the doctor may supposedly be very good in her field, her beside manner SUCKS ASS and her office "help" are the most unprofessional and disorganized twits imaginable! Tomorrow either I get the answers that we're hoping to get, OR we go back to the neurosurgeon and ask him point blank to do the surgery so that she can go back to school at the end of the month with SOME piece of mind! This tumor is causing her to have more headaches and the stress of college life does not help.
Other than that, the only other note-worthy piece of crap info I have is this: I NEED A FRIGGIN JOB!!!! Thanks to this "fiscal cliff" bullshit, my unemployment (along with everyone else in the US) will END ---- TOMORROW ----- lovely, huh? This is extremely frustrating and scary when you're trying to stay ahead of bills and keep your mortgage on track. **sigh**
On a totally unrelated note:
I present the Preening Teen -- he took this a couple days ago over the weekend. Him in his 17-year old "glory".
Don't worry... the girls couldn't stay out of the act. Here THEY are on Christmas eve -- taken at their respective boyfriend's homes.
Raven at 20 (she'll be 21 in February) and Miss Beth at 22 (just turned last month)
Suffice it to say - YES... I'm feeling very decidedly OLD!!!
ON THAT NOTE --- have a very HAPPY NEW YEAR Everyone.
- GLADE EXPRESSIONS
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- September 17th, 2012
PIMPING:
GLADE EXPRESSIONS SPRAY MIST: PINEAPPLE MANGOSTEEN
and
GLADE EXPRESSIONS OIL DIFFUSER: FUJI APPLE CARDAMOM SPICE
I've been using both the spray mist and the oil diffuser for a little while now. The spray mist lasts HOURS after spraying in a room. Most spray scents disappear minutes after spraying, but not this one. I clocked it - seriously!!!! FOUR HOURS MAX after spraying, I'd walk into the room and still smell it!!!
The oil diffuser, I just bought it this past week finally. LOVE IT!!! I picked up the apple scented one to keep "in season". Its very mild and very subtle. You walk into the livingroom and you catch the scent. I don't know about you, but apples in the fall just make me smile!!!
If you get a chance, check it out!
- Beth's Graduation - May 15, 2012
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- May 16th, 2012
My beautiful girl graduated from college yesterday. Regardless of the rain, it was a wonderful day.
( Pictures, Pictures... and more PicturesCollapse )
- sad heart
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- March 5th, 2012
My friendpopfiend lost his beautiful wife, Lisa yesterday quite suddenly. My heart is heavy for him and his family. Two more beautiful people you'll never meet; and I mean beautiful inside and out.
Please reach out to him and send your love and warmth to him in his time of need.
- odds and ends
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- February 27th, 2012
FIRST: Beth got accepted into Grad School! Very proud of her - beyond belief proud. She'll be doing her Master's work there at Fairleigh Dickinson where she currently is attending and will be graduating from on May 15th.
SECOND: This is a text message I got from the lovely Miss Beth --- just a few days after her Grad School announcement:
"if alex gets a single room next year, how would u feel
if i was a "commuter" but lived in his room?"
Now - how would YOU respond to that?
THIRD: I was laid off from my job on February 8th. I am ECSTATIC. Truly, I am. I'm a little bit more relaxed. I've been going room to room around the house CLEANING. And I've been cooking - A LOT!!!! I find I actually like cooking a lot. I like experimenting and having it turn out really well. Also, I started writing again. The piece I'm working on right now is leaning HEAVILY toward being an autobiographical piece, so it may not see the light of day at the end of it all. IF I can find a way to turn it around and fictionalize it, then maybe - but we'll see. All in all, I feel very accomplished.
FINALLY: Friday I'll be turning 45. My feelings are very blah right now. I have not decided how I feel about it all. I'll let you know after the fact.
Thats it for now! :-)
How are y'all doing???
- So grown and yet so not...
- lapintada
- November 3rd, 2011
21 years ago I was graced with a miracle that is my heart and soul today. Happy 21st Birthday to my beautiful daughter Beth - I am beyond proud of the woman you are becoming. Enjoy today and everyday. I love you dearly.
- IMPORTANT!
- lapintada
- October 13th, 2011
NEED YOUR HELP FRIENDS.
ARE ANY OF YOU IN OR NEAR
CHAPEL HILL HOSPITAL IN NORTH CAROLINA???
PLEASE EMAIL ME: ALEGNAB@GMAIL.COM
- Dear friends...
- lapintada
- October 4th, 2011
Need your help!!!
Who amongst you is in or near North Carolina - specifically Chapel Hill Hospital.
Please email me right away...
alegnab@gmail.com
- Thoughts, prayers, a gathering of the mind....
- lapintada
- September 24th, 2011
Hi everyone,
I have a cousin whose grandson was in a bad car accident late last month down in North Carolina. His friend was driving a car and slammed into a power pole. The driver of the car tried to crawl out of the car with powerlines down and got electrocuted. My cousin's grandson had tried as well. He suffered severe burns over A LOT of his body and other injuries.
He is 16 years old. He's already had one grafting surgery and is expected to have MANY more. He needs to have several toes on both feet amputated due to the severity of the burns.
Now we found out he has Pseudomonas Infection.
I'm reaching out to all of you to just push warm thoughts out to the cosmos to help this boy on his very long road to recovery.
Every little bit helps!!!!
Thanks!!!
His name is Richie and like I said, he's 16 years old.
- Has anyone heard from or spoken with MANDY from Texas?
- lapintada
- September 10th, 2011
- I'm still here!!!!
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- September 9th, 2011
OK, so now that my job has thoroughly fucked me up the ass, I figured it would be best to come back here to LJ and actively RANT because there is just some stuff you can't freely say in facebook.
(1) you're limited on characters in your initial post
(2) continuing your rant in subsequent "replies" just makes it "lose its flavor"
(3) people are way way too sensitive when you start using FUCK as a noun, pronoun, adjective, verb, etc...
in other words - those people who used to be high school classmates of yours who suddenly embraced religion and who you know for a FACT used to smoke anything and everything in the stairwell and do OTHER THINGS [weighted pause] - these people now get all offended when they see the word FUCK pop up on their friends page. OH THE HORROR!!!!
Anyway -- back to my fucking job!!!
Here's the list:
1. After commuting to NJ about 7 years ago for approximately 4 months, I picked up my kids and MOVED to Jersey - FOR THIS JOB
2. NOW, I have to commute in reverse because they decided they wanted everyone back in NYC
3. because of this commute, my life is now more fucked than ever
a. my commute costs go from $80/month to $500+ per month
b. i now have to pay DOUBLE taxes because I LIVE in new jersey but WORK in new york
c. I don't get to be with my family regularly anymore!!!
i. I will miss every single one of austin's track meets
ii. I don't get to see jimmy anymore because when he arrives from work in the morning, i'm out the door. and when i get home in the evenings, he's already gone to work.*
* I don't want to hear how this is going to make my marriage stronger - cuz that utter BULLSHIT!!!!!! You don't start off a marriage this way where you cannot see your spouse or if you do see them its BARELY with enough time to pass an air kiss to each other as you pass each other in a doorway!!!!!!!
4. they won't compensate for cost differential
5. they won't "allow"** telecommuting
a. except that my co-worker phyllis is allowed to still work from home on thursdays and fridays because she "has a young child" (he's 3 and just started pre-school)
6. Oh and lets talk about my co-worker phyllis for a minute: she's no longer my co-worker. Oh no, they passed me over and PROMOTED HER to be my new supervisor.
7. this new NYC office is NOT "friendly" for me. There is a white noise filter that runs throughout the office that is so poorly calibrated that it actually gives me a migraine within 15 minutes of being in the office and makes me extremely nauseous.
8. they've OUTSOURCED email, therefore my actual JOB is no longer existent and they've STUCK me in a room with the 2 guys who are the "helpdesk techs" ----- and it was announced in a STAFF MEETING that 'oh we have 3 people who do helpdesk..... UHM NO..... YOU HAVE TWO (2) PEOPLE WHO DO HELPDESK... NOT THREE!
a. oh but it seems I may have been demoted only I wasn't told about it!!! Not to my face; not on paper - nothing!!!!
b. this room they stuck me in --- its a walk-in FREEZER -- yes, that's how fucking COLD it is in here!!!
Now --- with ALL of this that has happened, I wrote a long email to the head of my department and ASKED HIM to LAY ME OFF!!!! i outlined all of the above for him and told him it would be to his and the company's benefit if he pulled together my package and laid me off.
All in all, this is an extremely HOSTILE work environment and I'm super depressed and upset and cannot deal with it anymore. I go home everynight and miss Jimmy and cry. I call Austin down from his room just to ask him how his day went but he's going to be 16 in a few weeks... he doesn't want to talk to me; he wants to play video games and talk with his friends.
Life well and truly SUCKS right now.
- Opened Sales again...
- lapintada
- September 5th, 2011
Happy Reading!
A
- To answer Miss Angela, my backwards sis...
- lapintada
- June 21st, 2011
It was FANTASTIC!!!! It went off with ALMOST no hitches... Here are some pictures :-)
- THREE DAYS TO GO!!!!
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- June 8th, 2011
AND EVERYTHING IS "SET" EXCEPT FOR ONE LITTLE THING!!!
I need a GOOD song for me to dance to with Austin (my 15 year old son who is "giving me away").
Have not been able to find one that is appropriate!
- 45 Days and Counting
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- April 27th, 2011
Checklist and Gripes:
1. dress fitting this coming Saturday
2. headpiece and bracelet shipped
3. need to book hotels
4. need to talk to DJ to finalize music
5. still waiting for responses to come in - a lot of them!
6. manicures and pedicures - needed
7. SOMETHING must be done with my hair! LOL
8. make up: hmmmm.. hate the stuff, NEEDS to be done and MUST be as natural as possible.
i know there's more...
i just know it...
brain fried
- UPDATE ON PREVIOUS 2 POSTS!!!
- lapintada
- April 18th, 2011
WHEW!!! SEEMS I'M THE POSTING QUEEN THESE DAYS - BUT I CAN DO WITHOUT THE ADS ON THIS "FREE/PLUS/WHATEVER" ACCOUNT THAT I HAVE!
She completed the circlet and is ready to ship it out already!!! I'm so excited. So much so that I've decided to go for broke (very literally) and am ordering the matching bracelet -- TWO OF THEM!!!!
I spoke with her --- her name is Elnara --- and she's going to ship all three out to me when the bracelets are completed so that I can save on shipping (her idea!!!) Isn't she great!!!!
I'll make sure I have enough gas money til my next payday 2 weeks from Friday, but I'm ordering these bracelets for sure. It just makes it "complete" --- you know?
- POST UPDATE....
- lapintada
- April 15th, 2011
UPDATE TO THIS POST:
OK... so I went and ordered this circlet. I can't remember if it was part of the original list... I don't believe it was. I really wish I could afford the matching bracelet, but I can't right now so I'll have to go without.
Thanks for your help everyone!!!
Love you all.
A
- Not sure who still cares... but...
- lapintada
- April 14th, 2011
I'm still here!
I'm in full-blown wedding planning mode and cannot catch a break to save my life!
Running around all over the place; dealing with the kids; dealing with my lame-assed job that I need to leave because I can't take it anymore; dealing with Jimmy..... way too much on the plate. Throw in the wedding stuff and I'm officially SWAMPED!
I am down to 58 Days until The Big Day. To say that I've lost my mind is an understatement. Why? Here's why:
1. this is wedding #3 for me
2. we've literally thrown the bulk of the planning for this wedding together in 3 months!!!
3. there's still a lot of "little" things to buy and take care of
4. jimmy is officially a Groom-zilla. He's making me NUTS!!!
The wedding basics: I'm not wearing white; Both of my daughters are standing up for me; my Son is giving me away - not my father. This is my third wedding, but its Jimmy's first, so a lot of the thought and planning is FOR HIM.
OK... so now I need some opinions --- and quite honestly, i'll be surprised if I get any cuz I think there's only maybe one or two of you still actually READING my journal!!! HA!!!
HEADPIECES: I'm still trying to find one and I think I've finally hit upon some that just make the cut. Tell me what you think!!!
CHOICE 1
CHOICE 2
CHOICE 3
CHOICE 4
Also - found these bracelets that looked kind of cute... ONE .... TWO ...
If you're interested, we do have a registry. Nothing tremendous - trust me on that... I don't have time for tremendous!
Anyway --- thats all I've got for now. If you're not interested in sticking around this journal because I don't post as frequently as I used to, by all means, drop me.... I"m A-OK with that! For the rest: LOVE YOU STILL!
A.
- (no subject)
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- April 8th, 2011
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- lapintada
- March 30th, 2011
- Oh so very "Christian"....
- lapintada
- March 11th, 2011
NOT!!!Its amazing to me how a big chunk of my high school graduating class are all "born again's", or some other uber Christian bent. These very same people ... the shit they used to do back in the day ... it amazes me.
What I find hysterical however, are the ones who pretty much shove their religion down your throat - in this case, plaster it all over Facebook a million times a day in a million different ways - and then post something like this:Really? He worships the devil??? Wow... how very unchristian-like.
And I'm SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO tempted to tell this person who posted just that. If nothing else - its a sure-fire way to clean out my "friends" list on FB of all the fakes!!!
What do you think?
- Wanted to Share!!!
- lapintada
- March 10th, 2011
- FOR SALE...
- lapintada
- March 5th, 2011
PASS THE WORD TO YOUR FRIENDS...
http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=250782514876&ssPageName=STRK:M ESELX:IT
- And so it begins...
- lapintada
- February 15th, 2011
I thought he was at school for track practice yesterday.
WRONG...
He was at school alright... but they didn't hold track practice yesterday because they had a meet day before.
He was at the school, walking around the building (inside) with his girlfriend.
Just spending valentine's day with her
Getting to know her.
School lets out at 2:45.
I got the "come pick me up" call at 5:45.
shoot me...
- Long time no update...
- lapintada
- January 31st, 2011
Hiya folks.
I know its been a while.
Short update: I'm THISCLOSE to losing my mind with wedding planning.
Longer update: Jimmy is good. Hate's this job. Hopes the UNION will help him with a grievance he filed last week. Fingers crossed. He's helping with the wedding planning . . . . . . *snort* HAHAHAHAHA... yeah right! HAHAHAHA
Beth & Raven are doing OK, They seem to be enjoying the fact that they are on the same college campus. Beth's boyfriend spoils both of them. Raven has a new BOYFRIEND. Both girls grades are good.
Austin is doing well with his classes this Sophomore year in high school. He's got a girlfriend - I have yet to meet her. He's been really slick about avoiding me meeting her! LOL Sophomore Winter Track: he broke the school record for his grade and has a chance to make it to the States. We'll see.
I gotta scare up a pic of the girls. With them away at school its not so easy to do. For now, here's one of Austin at one of his recent meets:
Next post (soon): wedding stuffs!
TTFN
- Not to be mentioned on FB...
- lapintada
- December 26th, 2010
The Grand Experiment:
Venison Stew: pulled random "basic" recipe from the net.
Followed recipe...
Stew enjoyed by all.
Only Jim & I "wise" to the facts.
- (no subject)
- lapintada
- December 23rd, 2010
Holy shit talk about Manic Mood Swings!!! All day today major waterworks --- for no damn reason! Feeling irrationally angry as well. I'd say give me a hug, but I'll just start crying again.
I dont know if this is due to the holidays... I don't know if this is because of hormones (menopause)...
all i know is that i want this to STOP.
ugh...
- help me please....
- lapintada
- December 4th, 2010
I need a "true" translation for "Forever Love" in Old Irish Gaelic.
I want to have Jimmy's wedding band engraved with this...
- RACHEL!!!! Come out, come out, wherever you are!!!!
- lapintada
- November 12th, 2010
I watched the "Red Carpet" Premiere for HP7 yesterday while at work. It was streamed live in the late afternoon.
Here's the link for some stills from yesterday: http://movies.yahoo.com/photos/collections/gallery/3059/#photo11
Check out LUNA!
Way different look !!!
:-)
- My 2 FDU girls....
- lapintada
- November 8th, 2010
Beth 20; Raven 18
- My Beautiful Girl
- lapintada
- November 3rd, 2010
She's 20 today.
I can't believe she's mine and now the world has her.
- I've started a new project...
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- October 29th, 2010
- Senseless Loss of Life
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- October 18th, 2010
Yesterday I had to rush up to the girls' college to console them and just be with them.
They had learned that a very good friend of theirs, one who graduated with Raven last year, had taken his own life.
He had been the 'star' quarterback all 4 years during high school.
He had earned a full ride to college for football.
He was a bright kid and always had a ready smile and hug for everyone.
In one of the last newspaper write ups about him, he stated that he'd be the first one in his family getting out of Potters to go to college
(Potters is the "poor" section of our township)
Then, in the wee morning hours yesterday, he gave up.
He was only 18 years old.
There had been signs.
He had told several people that he was struggling with his studies.
He stated that football was too much and he wanted to quit but that he didnt want to disappoint his parents because this was what they wanted for him.
He even spoke to a former coach to ask for advice.
Our children today are under a TREMENDOUS amount of pressure.
A lot of it, we, as parents, place upon them .
A lot of it, they put on themselves as a perceived "end goal"
We need to stop! We need to stop and tell these kids "if you want to STOP, then STOP. I'm here for you no matter what."
They need to UNDERSTAND that there will be NO REPERCUSSIONS... NO FALLOUT, if they don't want to do what they are currently doing anymore.
And we need to make them understand that we NEED them HERE...
That we don't want them to QUIT on life.... just on the activity or activities that are making them feel pressured beyond all control.
Please sit down and talk with your kids. Urge them to get counseling if they need someone to talk to. Ease up on the pressure -- our unintended pressure in the form of "expections on top of expections".
Just love your children and make sure they KNOW it and show them that friends and family are always there for them NO MATTER WHAT and that suicide.... it just isn't an answer
- Devil's Advocate
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- October 6th, 2010
Many of you know that I'd be the FIRST in line to do some serious damage to ANYONE who dared to lay hands on any of my kids in a manner that should NEVER BE.
That said, an article appeared in today's news about yet another teacher getting arrested and being charged with "Sexual Assault". His "victim" was a 17 year old female student. He is 29.
Two Sides of a Coin:
SIDE1: Letter of the law states that he can get charged with "Sexual Assault" because "The actor has supervisory or disciplinary power over the victim by virtue of the actor's legal, professional, or occupational status". [NJ Statute: 2C:14-2.2b Sexual assault] Because he was a teacher at her school, based on ONLY this statute, he is at fault and can be convicted for the crime of Sexual Assault. NOT because she's 17 and he's 29. New Jersey's legal age of consent is 16.
SIDE2: Boy meets girl. Girl meets boy. Their "in love". Hormones collide. Boy thinks with little dick and throws caution and career to the wind. Momma and Poppa of girl throw major hissy fit and "contrite" girl now claims "he made me do it" (for 4 months mind you!).
Either way - this kid's life (yes, he's 29 and he's a kid to me) is OVER. IF convicted, he'll get slapped with a Sexual Predator tag that will follow him everywhere he goes. Wherever he moves, he'll have to register with the local police and will be ostracized.
What do you think?
Here's the article for reference: http://www.nj.com/news/index.ssf/2010/10/piscataway_high_school_teacher.html
- She's stupid...
- lapintada
- October 1st, 2010
As much as I like/liked the series... doing this would be supremely stupid.
" Could Harry Potter return? JK Rowling says maybe "
- Rachel!!!!
- lapintada
- September 22nd, 2010
they might actually do it justice!!!!
http://mediagallery.usatoday.com/Harry-Potter-and-the-Deathly-Hallows-Part-1-Tra iler-released/G1764?loc=interstitialskip
- Long Weekend of Reality
- lapintada
- August 31st, 2010
So I was off on Friday and while on my vacation day, I had to take Beth back to college. She begins her 3rd year.
Saturday was primarily a "finish cleaning and packing day" for Raven
Then Sunday it was off to college with Raven so she could start her college career. All day event for moving in, lunch, candle-light ceremony welcoming the Class of 2014.
Then I drove home.
Alone.
Cried all the way there.
Once I got home I noticed Austin outside playing with his friends. It was about 8pm.
Inside, Jimmy was asleep so that he could wake up at 1am for work.
So I sat on my couch and realized that my house is essentially empty and it was super quiet so I cried some more.
How long before I stop feeling like this?
**sigh**
- college is fucking expensive and VERY over-rated!
- lapintada
- August 19th, 2010
i'm sitting at my desk on the verge of tears. i have to borrow 11,000 for beth and 19,000 for raven --- just for them to have their room/board/tuition for JUST THIS YEAR!!! this is MADNESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
- Testing testing....
- lapintada
- August 10th, 2010
Please go to my company URL and bounce around the site.
Let me know if you come across any broken links/pages or other errors.
Thanks!!!
Allie
www.audubon.org
- Just saying...
- lapintada
- August 9th, 2010
At 6 minutes and 7 seconds after 5 today, you will have 05:06:07 on 08/09/10.
- cross-post...
- lapintada
- July 28th, 2010
POLITICAL BULLSHIT...
UGH....
http://www.nj.com/news/index.ssf/2010/07/president_obama_greets_tastee.html
He was visiting my neighborhood - about half mile from my house.
Out of all the media postings today, only one quote stood out and burned my blood.
"Obama arrived at the sub shop at about 2:10pm, entering through the back. Edison Mayor Antonia Ricigliano (D) entered the front door. "
(no flame wars, thank you)
- Glommed from several...
- lapintada
- July 13th, 2010
